Blond hair vs Traditional Sarees!!

When the sun shines on the blond hair, it glitters like gold…but how long the sun will shine in the western world and will it still remain gold even when its gloomy…having tasted both traditional Indian and superfluous western life…I thought I can put forth my thoughts and compare the two contrasting ways of life…The thoughts are solely my opinion and not to hurt anybody’s feelings and can be debatable..;) The westerner always complains about Indian way of arranged marriages…the Indians always complain about the westerner’s life with many partners….when I look at the gross root level of both the life….there are plus and minus in both…

The westerner has a great possibility to choose from a wide variety of pool, his true soul mate…but if he/she is his/her true soul mate….why they don’t stick together forever…was it just superficial and Hippocratic ?…. Life is all ups and downs….all days are not sunny….a typical westerner wants everyday to be sunny…is it possible? Life is not always filled with happy moments…In fact your true soul mate is judged during your difficult times…Given the freeness and the independence from the society, they are able to behave more cranky and create more problems for themselves…the ultimate result is divorce… the amount of tolerance which a westerner have is very minimal…so when it comes to real life situations, they were not educated in a way to make compromises…

Since the society offers more freedom, they were in a position to do and try things which is quite abnormal ;) I bet the ultimate challenge for a westerner is to retain his girl friend/partner… Can life be lead all the way with this only challenge? That’s why they tend to give up this challenge and concentrate on other things…or probably in search of other partners because of the freeness in the society ;) The end result is “My Children and Your Children are playing with Our Children”.

Coming back to traditional Indian way of life…do you really choose your true love if you bring various factors of caste, religion, color, societal status, income and the assets when choosing a girl? Even after finding their true love, do they receive adequate support and tolerances from the society?... but still how do the relations survive for long time in Indian societies?...simply because Indians are trained to accept compromises and educated from the younger age to face difficult and hostile situations and live for the society and not for them…but if you give the same amount of western independence in an Indian society….I bet the percentage of divorces in India will be the maximum in the world ;) They are basically entangled in a situation where they can not come out of this vicious circle of marriage and society….so they tend to persist and stay even though the situation is not ideal and cherishing…but the question is how far is the threshold…

The most important thing which keeps Indian family moving is their nuclear structure. The affinity between the parents and the children in Indian families is considered as the most important aspect for long standing love and affection….a simple fact in Western society is the child sleeps alone after 3 months of birth…the westerners are trained to be more independent, so the feel for others doesn’t start even at the younger age…how can you expect that to happen with a person whom you meet in your lustful days that too in this materialistic world…What keeps life going after 30s and 40s is the family even though many argue career, money will be of high importance…

So its not ideal to compare both the sides of a coin, it totally depends on the mentality and attitude of each individuals how they are trained and programmed and brought up…as long as happiness and peace is guaranteed, any way of leading a life is charming and interesting…A typical Westerner believes “finding your soul mate is a continuous process of life” while an Indian argues “finding your soul mate is a one-time job of your life” ….having tasted both the dishes what I can say is “finding a soul mate is something god’s gift” :)

Cheers,
Sathish Kumar

30th birthday... end of youth ?

When people asks you...whats your age? and you reply I am 30...the next question will be, are you married? I thought its only in Asian culture...not really...this magic number 30 is considered even in western society as a big threshold age.. recently one of my good friend Nico celebrated his 30th birthday....in North Germany if you are not married by 30...you have to the clean the footsteps of Rathaus (Municipality building)... and in return the girls passing by comes and gives you a kiss...Nico was dressed up like a sexy lady and he was cleaning the footsteps of our apartment...Flo his good friend also dressed up like a bitch..came and helped Nico and they exchanged their kisses...oh no they are not gays...both have girl friends ;) It was totally a different experience for me...followed by awesome dinner and more important stuff for Germans (ALCOHOL, DANCE)...so better get married before 30th...having seen the German society, I guess 9 out of 10 Germans have to clean the footsteps of Rathaus...Now I understand why Germany is clean ;)

Cheers,
Sathish Kumar S

Scandinavian Blues... Copenhagen

The prayers were going on inside the Church for the Easter, sun was shining to the core, girls at their best, flowers starting to blossom...Yes spring is back...What should be done for the easter holidays...Copenhagen, Denmark came into picture...the train journey from Hamburg to Copenhagen was fascinating....the train goes inside the ship near Puttgarden, Germany...then travelling in the ship for one hour...wind was blowing at its maximum speed...with blue skies reflecting on the water...Yes...when nature speaks you sit and listen...then again by train...that was a great experience...

Copenhagen is a small bubbling capital city of Denmark with artistic buildings...not many spots to hang around...but on a sunny day looks fascinating...we took the ferry to explore the beauty of Copenhagen...we were blessed with great weather during the entire trip...ofcourse we brided the weather god ;)..one thing I can't understand why Denmark is so expensive...my goodness really twice as in Germany...I don't know whats the strength for Danish economy other than the cows and the milk ;) on top of it they don't use Euros...they have Danish Kroners...left with few Kroners at the end of the trip...offered it to a beutiful poor girl singing on the streets ;)

Next went to Malmo, a small city in Sweden..the train passes via Oresund bridge which is the longest border crossing bridge in the world connecting Copenhagen in Denmark and Malmo in Sweden...Malmo is a small little city with beautiful beaches...scenic buildings...worth visiting Oresund bridge by car...I should thank Jothir and Anu, perfect couple who made our trip exciting and fascinating...initially I thought I will be a big disturbance for them but they know each other for almost eight years.. a perfect example and role model for future Indian generations to persist with the love even after struggle from the Indian Society...Hats off to them!! All in all, a trip which will stay in my memory for long time!!

Tak = Thanks = Danke!!
Sathish Kumar S ;)

A day as a farmer

Spring is back....temperature was shooting up to 18°C... something has to be done after the depressive long winter....sun was shining.....was thinking something to do other than Software development...made a sudden plan to visit my colleague Mark who is staying in a perfect German village called Wetzen which is around 20 kms from Lüneburg...was thinking to visit him just by riding my cycle ;) Wetzen has a population of just 300 people...we started off the day by going to the forest by collecting the woods...then cutting them in to pieces for the heaters...oh ya Germans save lot of energy... ;) followed by wonderful lunch sitting in the country side with his family...and ofcourse Jägermeister and the vodkas at the end of the day...then had to return back to my place driving in the autobahn with my cycle with half drunk....it was a day which will reside in my memory for long time...because I did something really productive other than my regular work...Thanks Mark for providing such a wonderful day...

Cheers,
Sathish Kumar S